You might think that sharing a secret with someone always has to be a big deal with life-changing ramifications. It doesn’t. Of course, when you let people in on something impacting, it makes quite an impression. But you can make sharing a secret part of your everyday life using everyday things. The first time you share something with others, aren’t you sharing something that has been secret up to that moment? Why not let the person to whom you’re talking know that you’re revealing it for the first time? That makes him feel special
SHARE WHAT’S STIRRING WITHIN YOU TODAY TO MAKE A MEANINGFUL CONNECTION
ASK LISTEN REMEMBER: The method by which the Q builds Trust with his Group Members. He asks questions, listens to the answer and remembers what he hears. Abbr: ALR.
A Sicilian proverb says, “Only the spoon knows what is stirring in the pot.” When you allow another person to know what is stirring within you, giving him a “taste” of a plan or idea, you instantly make a meaningful connection with him. Who doesn’t want to know what’s going on in the mind of someone they care about?
Sharing a secret with someone is really a matter of two things: reading the context of a situation and desiring to build up the other person. If you do those two things, you can learn this skill.
1 Thessalonians 5:15
See that no one repays anyone evil for evil, but always seek to do good to one another and to everyone
Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear. And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, by whom you were sealed for the day of redemption. Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice. Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave
Man is not what he thinks he is, he is what he hides.
I feel bare. I didn’t realize I wore my secrets as armor until they were gone and now everyone sees me as I really am.
Leaders Leading Leaders
Becoming a Person of Influence
FEED THE PEOPLE AROUND YOU TODAY WITH ENCOURAGEMENT, RECOGNITION, SECURITY, AND HOPE
In some regards, people respond similarly to the way some animals do. And like animals, people need to be cared for, not just physically, but emotionally. If you look around, you’ll discover that there are people in your life who want to be fed—with encouragement, recognition, security, and hope. That process is called nurturing, and it’s a need of every human being.
If you desire to become an influencer in others’ lives, start by nurturing them.
Many people mistakenly believe that the way to become an influencer is to become an authority figure—correct others’ errors, reveal the weak areas they can’t easily see in themselves, and give so-called constructive criticism.
At the heart of the nurturing process is genuine concern for others. As you try to help and influence the people around you, you must have positive feelings and concern for them. If you want to make a positive impact on them, you cannot dislike, despise, or disparage them. You must give them love and respect.