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And don’t give Up
When was the last time you really paid close attention to people and what they have to say?
Do more than just grab onto facts. Start listening not only for words, but also for feelings, meanings, and undercurrents.
ASK LISTEN REMEMBER:
The method by which the Q builds Trust with his Group Members. He asks questions, listens to the answer and remembers what he hears. Abbr: ALR.
LISTEN WITH THE PURPOSE OF UNDERSTANDING PEOPLE TODAY. SEEK TO GAIN KNOWLEDGE FROM THEIR EXPERIENCE, THEIR PERSPECTIVE, AND THEIR FEELINGS
THAT SOMEBODY: A HIM who doesn’t wait for somebody else to do something or grumble when somebody else makes him do something, because he IS That Somebody who is already doing something.
Grace is what we should aspire to as men when Adversity, Pain and Chaos confront us. We could let our fear overcome us and shy away, or even run away, but we should set the fear aside and turn the Hardship into Grace. What this looks like in action is hard to describe because Hardships come in as many shapes and sizes as the men who confront them, but Rudyard Kipling did a pretty good capturing the idea in the first stanza of his poem If—:
If you can keep your head when all about you
Are losing theirs and blaming it on you;
If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,
But make allowance for their doubting too;
If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,
Or, being lied about, don’t deal in lies,
Or, being hated, don’t give way to hating,
And yet don’t look too good, nor talk too wise;
The man Kipling is describing is what F3 calls That Somebody. He is a HIM who takes the DRP because he is Committed to the Get Right. He is a man who Lives Right and as a result is able to Lead Right through the lifetime Practice of Virtuous Leadership. He is Durable, a Servant whose life is a beacon of Truth and Wisdom to those lost within our fallen and fearful world. He lives in Relational Rhythm with his Concentrica and is in close contact with his Creator, assured that his path is true and his future secure.
If, as Kipling wrote, you are this men then then “Yours is the Earth and everything that’s in it, And—which is more—you’ll be a Man, my son!
Know this, my beloved brothers: let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger;
The way of a fool is right in his own eyes, but a wise man listens to advice.
If one gives an answer before he hears, it is his folly and shame.
Cease to hear instruction, my son, and you will stray from the words of knowledge.
A fool takes no leasure in understanding, but only in expressing his opinion.
One of the most sincere forms of respect is actually listening to what another has to say.
Bryant H. McGill
Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around.
Kindness is the language which the deaf can hear and the blind can see.
Leaders Leading Leaders
How the poor live
“It was great, Dad.”
“Did you see how poor people live?” the father asked.
“Oh yeah,” said the son.
“So, tell me, what did you learn from the trip?” asked the father.
The son answered, “I saw that we have one dog and they had four.
We have a pool that reaches to the middle of our garden, and they have a creek that has no end.
We have imported lanterns in our garden, and they have the stars at night.
Our patio reaches to the front yard, and they have the whole horizon.
We have a small piece of land to live on, and they have fields that go beyond our sight.
We have servants who serve us, but they serve others.
We buy our food, but they grow theirs.
We have walls around our property to protect us; they have friends to protect them.”
The boy’s father was speechless.
Then his son added, “Thanks, Dad, for showing me how poor we are.