Many leaders commit the error of separating leadership from relationships. This happens when people step into leadership positions and assume that everyone will follow them because of their position. Some leaders wrongly believe that their knowledge alone qualifies them to lead others. People don’t care how much you know until they know how much you care. We cannot separate leadership from relationships. Leaders help themselves by developing good relational skills. Paul instructs us how to lead through relationships:
Avoid hypocrisy. Identify with others.
Be loyal to colleagues. Be open-minded toward others.
Give preference to others. Treat everyone with respect.
Be hospitable. Do everything possible to keep peace.
Return good for evil. Remove revenge from your life.
What can you work on to improve your relationships?
BRICK: A singular positive Habit that is Advantageous to the individual or others.
BRICKLAYING: The joining of Bricks into a Routine.
BRICKS WITHOUT STRAW: Calling on a man to lead without providing the training necessary to form positive Habits. Abbr: BWS
For you formed my inward parts; you knitted me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well. My frame was not hidden from you, when I was being made in secret, intricately woven in the depths of the earth.
For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope.
Are not five sparrows sold for two pennies? And not one of them is forgotten before God. Why, even the hairs of your head are all numbered. Fear not; you are of more value than many sparrows.
1 Corinthians 10:13
No temptation has overtaken you that is not common to man. God is faithful, and he will not let you be tempted beyond your ability, but with the temptation he will also provide the way of escape, that you may be able to endure it.
“No one has a problem with the first mile of a journey. Even an infant could do fine for a while. But it isn’t the start that matters. It’s the finish line.”
― Julien Smith
Nothing builds self-esteem and self-confidence like accomplishment.
― Thomas Carlyle
“There we both sat and rested for a while, facing the rising sun the way we’d climbed, for looking back can sometimes help you on.”
“Don’t tell me how hard you work. Tell me how much you get done.”
― James Ling
Leaders Leading Leaders
Prioritizing Team Mission Accomplishment
Teamwork begins and ends with Mission
A HIM, because he is a Virtuous Leader, forms and deploys his Team to perform a specific Mission for the benefit of his Community or an Organization in which he is a Member. The Mission arises from an Advantage sought for the larger Group or in response to a Problem that the Community or Organization cannot itself remedy because it lacks the combination of Proximity and Purposefulness that is the distinguishing feature of the Team from other Groups. Communities cannot solve Problems (without Teams) because they are not Purposeful. Organizations, while Purposeful, also struggle to solve Problems (without Teams) because they lack the Proximity that is required to facilitate Teamwork, and without Teamwork, nothing of Advantage will happen.
A Team’s Mission is similar to a man’s Mission in that it is a Course Of Action taken to achieve a particular Purpose. A Course of Action is an integrated scheme of Tasks and Events that the Q devises to bring the Solution into fruition and eliminate a Problem or to gain Advantage for the larger Group. The Course of Action is the Team’s Mission, the things it does (its Tasks) and the reason it does them (it’s Articulated Purpose).
Tasks are different than Events. Whereas a Task is an action performed, an Event is something that occurs, whether planned or not. In Mutual Competence (Q3.2), we used the following example to illustrate the difference between Tasks and Events: baking a wedding cake is a Task, while the wedding reception is an Event. In the performance of the Team’s Mission, its Members will combine their actions through Tasks and Events in an efficient and potent way so that the Course of Action is successful.
Anything that distracts from the Mission inhibits Teamwork and is an enemy of Team Prosperity. Thus, the Q must constantly reinforce the Mission to focus the Team’s energy on achieving its Articulated Purpose and defend its Members from the temptation to expend resources on Problems that it was not formed to solve or Advantages that do not increase the Prosperity of the Community or Organization that the Team serves