Treat people the way you want to be treated.
Regardless of how negative they go, always be kind. Sometimes a relationship with a negative person can be improved with a little bit of kindness. Smile at them or saying hello when you see them. Being friendly isn’t a sign of weakness but of strength and confidence.
When you encounter negative people, remember not to take their negativity personally. The issue isn’t you; it’s their attitude. If you can stay connected to that truth it will make their negativity easier to handle.
When dealing with a negative person it’s important to stay calm. Keep your body language and the tone of your voice under control. Think about what you’re going to say and what your goal for the conversation is, and don’t react impulsively if other person offends you.
If possible, don’t disagree with negative people. Find ways to be agreeable or to ignore them. Arguing will only get you emotionally invested in the situation and trigger your fight-or-flight responses, making it harder for you to think clearly and respond appropriately.
Stay calm and rational, avoid the temptation to score rhetorical points, and refuse to be drawn into a battle you don’t want to fight. You’re much more likely to reach a satisfactory outcome if you can stay calm, cool and collected.
Most people have at least a few redeeming traits, so try to find something good. If there’s something the person does well, concentrate on that. Choose to go positive no matter how negative they are.
Focus on the problem, the task, the project, the issue that you have to solve or discuss rather than the person you are dealing with. This helps prevent the conversation from escalating into personal attacks and may lead to more positive attitudes all around.
I can do all things through him who strengthens me.
Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.
And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose
- “For to be free is not merely to cast off one’s chains, but to live in a way that respects and enhances the freedom of others.”
- “What counts in life is not the mere fact that we have lived; it is what difference we have made to the lives of others that will determine the significance of the life we lead.”
- “I am the master of my fate: I am the captain of my soul.”
Leaders Leading Leaders
The Process Employed By A Group To Teach Its Members What A Leader Is And What A Leader Does
Great leaders develop new leaders
While leadership is critical to all Groups, leaders are always in short supply in most Groups because only a few Groups employ a systematic Leadership Development Process. What separates those few Groups from the rest is simple: they are led by great leaders.
Great leaders are intent on leaving a legacy that will resound to their Groups’ Advantage long after they have gone. Knowing their leadership tenure is limited by human mortality, they get prepared for the expected event of their departure by developing new leaders. Because they cannot predict the precise time of their departure, they stay ready for the unexpected by ensuring that the leaders they develop are ready right now instead of sometime tomorrow.
Great leaders develop new leaders systematically, through an LDP that is tailored to the needs of the Groups they lead. They see this as a primary part of their responsibility as a leader, not something they also do if they can find the time.
For great leaders, developing new leaders is leadership, of the highest caliber.
The LDP has four steps: Schooling, Apprenticeship, Opportunity and Failure
The LDP depends upon decentralized execution to a central purpose
F3 is an Organization whose purpose is to invigorate male Community leadership. Not surprisingly, since our mission is leadership development itself, F3 needs a very deliberate Leadership Development Process to be Effective.
However, because the Organization is comprised of thousands of small Teams which are not in Proximity, that deliberate process cannot restrict the individual initiative and genius of its leaders. We are absolutely dependent upon our great leaders to be about the business of developing our new leaders. The execution of the LDP is in their hands because it is their hands that are physically upon the new leaders.
As a result, we do not dictate the precise manner in which our leaders are to execute F3’s LDP but rather encourage and focus them upon our central purpose. They must know the why of the LDP before they can perform its what. Also, they must be affirmed in their efforts to be incentivized to continue them.