As you move forward on the success journey, you need to remember that what happens in you is more important than what happens to you.
You can control your attitudes as you travel on the journey, but you have no control over the actions of others. You can choose what to put on your calendar, but you can’t control today’s circumstances. Unfortunately, the majority of the fear and stress that people experience in life is from things they can do nothing about. Don’t let that happen to you.
PORTRAIT OF A GODLY LEADER
LORD, who may abide in Your tabernacle? Who may dwell in Your holy hill? He who walks uprightly, And works righteousness, And speaks the truth in his heart; He who does not backbite with his tongue, Nor does evil to his neighbor, Nor does he take up a reproach against his friend; In whose eyes a vile person is despised, But he honors those who fear the Lord; He who swears to his own hurt and does not change; He who does not put out his money at usury, Nor does he take a bribe against the innocent. He who does these things shall never be moved.
FOCUS ON THE THINGS YOU CAN DO SOMETHING ABOUT TODAY.
1 Samuel 16:7
But the Lord said to Samuel, “Do not look on his appearance or on the height of his stature, because I have rejected him. For the Lordsees not as man sees: man looks on the outward appearance, but the Lord looks on the heart.”
And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose.
Know this, my beloved brothers: let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger; for the anger of man does not produce the righteousness of God.
“Everything is a gift of the universe–even joy, anger, jealousy, frustration, or separateness. Everything is perfect either for our growth or our enjoyment.”
Ken Keyes Jr.
“There is no such thing as a problem without a gift for you in its hands. You seek problems because you need their gifts.”
Why do the achievers overcome problems, while thousands are overwhelmed by theirs? They refused to hold on to the common excuses for failure.
They turned their stumbling blocks into stepping-stones.
They realized they could not determine every circumstance in life, but they could determine their choice of attitude toward every circumstance.
Confrontation is very difficult for most people. If you feel uneasy just reading the word confront, I’d like to suggest that you substitute the word clarify. Clarify the issue instead of confronting the person. Then follow these ten commandments.
1. Do it privately, not publicly.
2. Do it as soon as possible. That is more natural than waiting a long time.
3. Speak to one issue at a time. Don’t overload the person with a long list of issues.
4. Once you’ve made a point, don’t keep repeating it.
5. Deal only with actions the person can change. If you ask the person to do something he or she is unable to do, frustration builds in your relationship.
6. Avoid sarcasm. Sarcasm signals that you are angry at people, not at their actions, and may cause them to resent you.
7. Avoid words like always and never. They usually detract from accuracy and make people defensive.
8. Present criticisms as suggestions or questions if possible.
9. Don’t apologize for the confrontational meeting. Doing so detracts from it and may indicate you are not sure you had the right to say what you did.
10. Don’t forget the compliments. Use what I call the “sandwich” in these types of meetings: Compliment—Confront—Compliment