FAILURE: An undesirable Outcome that builds the Leadership Foundation. (Q3.16).
AN UNWANTED OUTCOME THAT BUILDS THE LEADERSHIP FOUNDATION
Failure is the fourth phase of the LDP.
From Schooling, a man learns what a Leader is supposed to do and be. From Apprenticeship, he learns to be what a Leader is and to do what a Leader does. From Opportunity, he acquires the experience necessary for him to Lead in areas of increasing responsibility and importance to the Organization.
Is Failure Necessary?
Where does Failure fit into the equation? It is the forge that burns away a Leader’s me-first self-regarding nature. It matures him. Without Failure (and lots of it), the man will retain too much of who he was and keep doing what he did, rather than being fully transformed into what a Leader is and consistently do what a Leader does. A man cannot become a Virtuous Leader without the chance to Fail and learn from it.
Take the example of pass praise/take blame:
• A Leader first learns this foundational element of Leadership during his Schooling where it becomes part of his head-knowledge
• During his Apprenticeship the developing Leader watches and helps his master pass praise/ take blame to see what it looks like when applied outside of the sterile classroom
• Finally, when given his Opportunity to Lead, he will put it into practice himself outside of the protective bubble of the Apprenticeship where the Outcome is his sole responsibility
• But it will only be through Failure that the full responsibility for Outcome will crash down upon him
Not until he has failed to properly pass praise/take blame under stress will the developing Leader be an instinctive practitioner of the principle. While the first three building phases of the LDP may teach him everything he needs to know about pass praise/take blame, only Failure will teach him what he needs to feel about it. And it is the feeling that a man needs to be able to do what is necessary instinctively under the circumstances that it is most needed.
Failure forges the intellectual knowing of what must be done into the tangible instinct of doing of it consistently under periods of extreme stress
For the Virtuous Leader, that is indispensable.
In my application of pass praise/take blame I had a good number of Failures before it became instinctive, but there is one occasion that really set the block in place for me. It happened during my time as a platoon leader. My boss was the company commander. He sent me to a meeting he couldn’t attend with his boss (the battalion commander) where the other company commanders and the battalion staff were present. It was about fifteen men, all of whom had more rank or experience than I did. In an infantry battalion, the battalion commander is like the President and his staff is like the cabinet. In going to that meeting, I was like a wet-behind-the-ears (very) under-under-secretary of the interior.
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My flesh and my heart may fail, but God is the strength of my heart and my portion forever.
More than that, we rejoice in our sufferings, knowing that suffering produces endurance, and endurance produces character, and character produces hope, and hope does not put us to shame, because God’s love has been poured into our hearts through the Holy Spirit who has been given to us.
2 Corinthians 12:9-10
But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly of my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may rest upon me. For the sake of Christ, then, I am content with weaknesses, insults, hardships, persecutions, and calamities. For when I am weak, then I am strong.
“The harder the conflict, the more glorious the triumph. What we obtain too cheap, we esteem too lightly; it is dearness only that gives everything its value. I love the man that can smile in trouble, that can gather strength from distress and grow brave by reflection. ‘Tis the business of little minds to shrink; but he whose heart is firm, and whose conscience approves his conduct, will pursue his principles unto death.”
“If necessity is the mother of invention, conflict is its father.”
“Am I not destroying my enemies when I make friends of them?”
“I’ve always believed that a lot of the troubles in the world would disappear if we were talking to each other instead of about each other.”
This little light of mine…
- When: 04/09/18
- QIC: Bill Nye
I make no secret of the fact that I love to Q. Put me one the sheet, I want it.
I want to push, pull, or kick any one who shows up to reach down and pull out more than they thought that they could.
But this is Old Town. It is our premier AO. The toughest of the week.
And I am still injured.
This was my question today: How do I push these men when any of them can leave me behind very quickly?
The goal was to get it all done OYO. But I forgot something when planning to push these men this morning.
We do not leave one another behind. So even though I was the slowest one there by a bunch, each trip had men coming back to get me.
I am continuously blown away by this group of men. I am two and a half years into this thing and it has been a while since I was the six. Today I was.
Yet at no time was there judgement. Every single time I was met with encouragement and joy. I was not a burden to be collected, I was a brother to be found. While it is possible that they just couldn’t read my writing, I think that there is more to it then that.
And that is the power of this F3 thing. I tried to push the men I was with, but they ended up pulling me along with them. We move forward as a group. When we all do better we actually all do better. And I know that without a doubt I am doing better than I was before I was blessed with this group.
And that’s why we have to give it away. Find someone who needs this. Talk to them. Text them. DM them. By any means. There are too many hurting people who just need to be a part of a community. Who need to be pushed. How many times have you heard request for strength, patience, wisdom, or some combination of the three in the COT? These are people asking for the support of a community. Where would they go if they could not go to this group? Would any of us be as well off as we are?
A candle is not lessened when it gives light to another. The whole room gets brighter.
It is our time to be the light in the darkness. Give it away.