1) DO NOT ENGAGE IN GOSSIP OR ALLOW ANYONE TO DRAW YOU INTO IT.
2) DO NOT ENGAGE IN GOSSIP OR ALLOW ANYONE TO DRAW YOU INTO IT.
3) DO NOT ENGAGE IN GOSSIP OR ALLOW ANYONE TO DRAW YOU INTO IT.
It’s been said that great people talk about ideas, average people talk about themselves, and small people talk about others. That’s what gossip does. It makes people small. There really is no upside to gossip. It diminishes the person being talked about. It diminishes the person who is saying unkind things about others, and it even diminishes the listener. That’s why you should avoid not only spreading gossip but also being a recipient of it. If you stop people from unloading gossip on you, it will make you feel better about the person who’s being talked about, as well as about yourself. Besides, whoever gossips to you will gossip about you.
British prime minister Winston Churchill said,
“When the eagles are silent, the parrots begin to jabber.” Good leaders are like eagles: they soar; they inspire; they fly high. And they don’t talk just to hear themselves. They don’t vent about someone to others to make themselves feel better. If they have a problem with a person, they go to that individual and address the issue directly—never through a third party. They praise publicly and criticize privately. And they never say anything about others that they wouldn’t want them to hear—because they probably will.
For lack of wood the fire goes out, and where there is no whisperer, quarreling ceases
Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear
A dishonest man spreads strife, and a whisperer separates close friends.
- The only person you are destined to become is the person you decide to be.” –Ralph Waldo Emerson
- “If you genuinely want something, don’t wait for it–teach yourself to be impatient.” –Gurbaksh Chahal
- “Everything you’ve ever wanted is on the other side of fear.” –George Addair
- “Nothing will work unless you do.” –Maya Angelou
Leaders Leading Leaders
People need to be shown the team’s vision clearly, creatively, and continually. Whenever I endeavor to cast vision with the members of my team, I use the following checklist.
I try to make sure that every vision message possesses . . .
Clarity: brings understanding to the vision
(answers what the people must know and what you want them to do)
Connectedness: brings the past, present, and future together
Purpose: brings direction to the vision
Goals: bring targets to the vision
Honesty: brings integrity to the vision and credibility to the vision-caster
Stories: bring relationships to the vision
Challenge: brings stretching to the vision
Passion: brings fuel to the vision
Modeling: brings accountability to the vision
Strategy: brings process to the vision