Ingraining Advantageous Tendencies In Others
A man cannot give away what he himself does not possess
A Habit is a regular tendency that is hard to give up. By regular, we mean periodic, in the sense that it is something done (or refrained from) at a measurable interval. A tendency, the something done, is a type of behavior or characteristic that has become so ingrained over time that a person engages in it without active thought, like lighting up a cigarette every time he starts the car.
A Habit, standing alone, can be positive, negative or neutral.
- A negative Habit is one that is damaging to the individual who engages in it, the people who might be affected by it or both. Texting while driving is an example of a negative Habit. It is a regular tendency that threatens the safety of the driver, his passengers and the motoring public with whom he shares the public roadway.
- A neutral Habit is one that is neither damaging nor Advantageous to the individual or anyone else. Chewing gum while driving is a neutral Habit. Although it might relax the driver, it does not create a superior circumstance through Movement. Most of what we call nervous Habits are neutral Habits. It is just repetitive behavior that has no significant effect on anyone. At their worst, they are a waste of time.
- positive Habit, a Brick, is a regular tendency that is Advantageous to the individual or others. Wearing a seat belt is a positive Habit. It reduces the likelihood of serious injury in the event of collision, which is Advantageous to both the driver and his Concentrica.
Through IMPACT, the HIM helps other men discontinue their negative Habits, minimize time spent on neutral Habits while initiating and ingraining positive Habits.
IMPACT is an acronym formed by the different aspects of what HIM does to achieve strong effect through forcible contact:
Influence: igniting a powerful desire for Movement
Missionality: Serving in the High Impact Zone
Positive Habit Transfer: ingraining Advantageous tendencies in others
Accountability: submitting to Standard through Enforcement and Consequence
Correction: zealously advocating for shared virtue
Targeting: initiating Missionality in others
Bad Habits are easy to slip into, but hard to break. Positive Habits are hard to develop, but easy to slip out of. If it were otherwise, people would simply replace their bad Habits with good ones without the help of anyone else. But it doesn’t work that way. Most people need forcible contact from another person in order to replace their negative Habits with positive ones. This help is best delivered in the form of the Positive Habit Transfer (PHT) .
PHT starts with Influence. Through word and deed, the HIM Persuasively models his own positive Habits to ignite a desire for change in others. This presupposes that the HIM actually engages in the positive Habits he is trying to model as it is axiomatic that no man can give away what he himself does not possess. It would be like trying to start a fire with a cold ember.
Likewise, the HIM knows that he is mostly likely to have strong effect when he is working within his High Impact Zone. Having learned his D2X over time, he focuses his energy on his Daffodil—the people-group he was born to Serve. That doesn’t mean that he cannot pass positive Habits on to people outside of his Daffodil, just that he will have much stronger effect if he stays Missional.
Because positive Habits are easy to slip out of, the HIM must also take measures to ensure that his own Guardrails are not crumbling while he is trying to help others build theirs. The pursuit of proper personal alignment that is at the heart of the Get Right is not a static undertaking. Having gotten Right, a HIM remains susceptible to backsliding into misalignment with himself, his Concentrica and his Creator if he is not vigilant in his efforts to continue to Accelerate. A major component of this effort is Accountability, the submission to Standard through Enforcement and Consequence. Without Accountability, a HIM will not be able to keep his own Bricks in place long enough to pass them on to anyone else.
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But be doers of the word, and not hearers only, deceiving yourselves. For if anyone is a hearer of the word and not a doer, he is like a man who looks intently at his natural face in a mirror. For he looks at himself and goes away and at once forgets what he was like. But the one who looks into the perfect law, the law of liberty, and perseveres, being no hearer who forgets but a doer who acts, he will be blessed in his doing.
2 Timothy 3:16
All Scripture is breathed out by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, and for training in righteousness,
To put off your old self, which belongs to your former manner of life and is corrupt through deceitful desires, and to be renewed in the spirit of your minds, and to put on the new self, created after the likeness of God in true righteousness and holiness.
PASSION FOR YOUR WORK
Having passion for their work helps good leaders become even better. These inspiring quotes may provide you with the motivation you need to take the leap of faith it requires to become a small-business owner, go after that dream job, and obtain your life’s goals.
“Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven’t found it yet, keep looking. Don’t settle. As with all matters of the heart, you’ll know when you find it.” -Steve Jobs
“Dream more than others think practical. Expect more than others think possible. Care more than others think wise.” -Howard Schultz
Leaders Leading Leaders
There are so many reasons for not having a positive mindset. We fail at something, we don’t achieve what we set out to do, we don’t get what we expected we would, we experience a loss, we get exhausted from our work or school responsibilities. And then our inner critic takes over. We start telling ourselves, why did you think you were better? You can’t even do one simple thing right. You’re incapable! You shouldn’t expect things to go right for you. You don’t deserve success!
That inner critic is the one you need to watch out for. Why? Because it forces you to filter reality through a negative lens so you don’t see any possibilities, any options for making a change, any light at the end of the tunnel.
How do you harness that inner critic and start seeing your life as one of abundance instead of a life of limitations?
Try beginning your day with this 5-minute habit that will restructure your brain and help you build a positive mindset.
Start every morning by saying, “thank you.”
In other words, incorporate a few minutes of gratitude into your day.
Why is this so important to creating a positive mindset?
When you live your life on auto-pilot, without really considering what you have going for you, you lack awareness. There’s so much you do have, and it’s not just things; you also have experiences, family and friends, memories, pockets of happy moments, laughter your shared with someone, your personal strengths, your skills and talents, and you most likely also have a reasonable amount of knowledge about the world and how it works.
In reality, you don’t focus on any of that. What do you focus on instead? On everything else around you–other people, other people’s things, other people’s accomplishments, other people’s relationships, problems, obstacles standing in your way, impossibilities. The list goes on and on. That’s a dangerous path to take because it can easily set you up for anxiety, overwhelm, unhappiness, and a feeling of failure.
How does saying “thank you” increase the quality of your life?
- It rewires your brain to think about positive things. You start thinking about things that you do have going for you, instead of obsessing about the things you do not have and that can leave you feeling frustrated and unhappy.
- It helps you to see life as plentiful instead of empty. This is very, very important because it’s a shift in your mindset. It’s a switch to leading a life full of abundance instead of a life of scarcity.
- It creates a positive tone to your day.Think of it as a personal soundtrack to your life, which can impact your attitude not just for that particular day, but for your entire life moving forward.
How do you start practicing a habit of gratitude?
- Start early. When you start your day with gratitude, you will feel the effects throughout the day. Take a few minutes when you wake up and before you start getting ready for work or school. Give yourself some quiet time to focus on what you want to say. You might want to close your eyes while you think about it, or maybe you’ll want to write your thoughts down and then say them out loud.
- Start small. Focus only on 3 things you are grateful for today. It can be the simplest of things: having a warm bed to sleep in, a roof over your head, a job that pays the bills, a friend or a partner who you trust, food in your fridge, a dog or cat that you have as your pet, an education that will empower you to take charge of your life and become independent. You can also think about a recent pleasant experience, such as spending time with a friend or enjoying a beautiful walk in nature.
- Be specific. If it’s that one person you’re grateful for having in your life, emphasize which of their qualities you are grateful for (they’re warm, gracious, smart, funny, creative, honest, etc.). If it’s having your own room or apartment, point out why this is important to you (you can have quiet time in the evening to relax, read, or work undisturbed). If it’s being part of a community or circle of friends, emphasize how being around them makes you feel and think of a recent evening you spent together.