August 24th F3QSOURCE Daily Leadership Message Scriptures and Quotes

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Leaders Message

F3 Agony Wes Barry


Every man wants to be a hero. This innate desire to be a hero starts young in our lives. Just look at my boys choice of costumes from Halloween. They wanted to be Spiderman and Batman, and were distraught when they discovered that at their school they would not wear their costumes, but ingeniously dressed up as Peter Parker and Bruce Wayne. Beneath the surface, men have a deep sense of heroic responsibility.

Unless you are George Constanza…

Listen to a group of men pray and you will here them petition for the strength to make a difference in our cities, our neighborhood and our homes. We want to be heroic in life. But to be a hero, you have to follow the hero’s quest.

There are three stages to the Hero’s Quest
1) Separation
2) Initiation
3) Return

The Hero’s quest begins when he is separated from the comfort, the stability, the familiar and the safe. He leaves behind the secure world for the unknown. This separation is often a forceful departure because no one really wants to leave a comfortable life.

Stage two is undergoing an ordeal that challenges oneself in order expose weaknesses and reveal strengths. Traditionally these ordeals were initiation rites among men only, where the elders accepted the younger males in as men.

Finally, the man returns ready to live the life of a hero on behalf of others.

You know what…in its brilliance…F3 takes men on that Hero’s quest every morning.

Stage 1: We are pulled out of the comfiness of our warm homes. We get yanked out of the safe, secure suburbs and thrust into the dark gloom unaware of what will happen.

Stage 2: We face an ordeal-I remember vividly during my first workout wheezing during the warmup mountain climbers wondering what have just undergone; and just this morning, I grumbled as a man unneccessarily made me bear crawl. The carefully controlled initiation rite leaves each one of us gasping where we have identified weaknesses (burpees) and strengths (partner-carries).

Stage 3: We return to our homes, our jobs, our community energized and ignited to lead valiantly.

Patrick Arnold captures the drive home for a newly minted hero:

The final stage of the heroic initiation rites was return and reintegration into society. The village would mark the reappearance of their new men with a great celebration or feast; clothed or named anew, the young men won new respect. They were important now, they mattered. Now they were expected to join the hunt, learn how to defend the village, to rule the tribe, to pray on behalf of the people, and to heal the sick–to live lives of concrete and everyday heroism.^

So men, what way are you returning on behalf of the people as concrete everyday heroes?

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Daily Scriptures

Peter 3:9

The Lord is not slow to fulfill his promise as some count slowness, but is patient toward you, not wishing that any should perish, but that all should reach repentance.


Preach the word; be ready in season and out of season; reprove, rebuke, and exhort, with complete patience and teaching

James 1:1-4

James, a servant of God and of the Lord Jesus Christ, To the twelve tribes in the Dispersion: Greetings. Count it all joy, my brothers, when you meet trials of various kinds, for you know that the testing of your faith produces steadfastness. And let steadfastness have its full effect, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing

Daily Quotes

It takes two flints to make a fire.”-Louisa May Alcott

“Collaboration allows teachers to capture each other’s fund of collective intelligence.” –Mike Schmoker

“I invite everyone to choose forgiveness rather than division, teamwork over personal ambition.”–Jean-Francois Cope

“Remember, teamwork begins by building trust. And the only way to do that is to overcome our need for invulnerability.” –Patrick Lencioni

Leaders Leading Leaders

The Leaders I was most drawn to in the Army were men so simple and regular in their personal habits that you could set your clock by what they did. The IMPACT they had on me resounds to this day. My office is very spare. I only have what I need and I keep it all in a specific location that never varies so that I never to look for anything. I park my car in the same spot every morning so that I can find it quickly every evening after a long day of thinking about more important things. Like Nick Saban, I eat the same thing almost every day and my wardrobe does not have much more diversity than President Obama’s does.

I do these things (and many others) to simply my life and promote Consistency with three objectives in mind:


the more decisions I remove from my daily life the more likely it is that I will continue to Accelerate. As we said in Q1.1 (the DRP), discretion is a cage with velvet bars. I don’t get up in the morning and decide whether to exercise that day. Because my Habits are so ingrained, I just find myself at a Workout every morning via a series of non-decisions that were easy to make because I didn’t have make them. By abandoning discretion to Habit, I have freed myself from having to decide.


the more reliable I am in the small things, the more people will believe they can rely upon in me in the big things. Trust is one of the most critical components to the Prosperity of any Group. The decision whether to follow a man or share Leadership with him is founded upon it. The Virtuous Leader uses every opportunity he gets to remove doubt from the minds of his followers through radical Consistency in small things, because it is the small things in which they will most often see him engaged.


simplicity reduces mistakes. KISS (Keep It Simple Stupid) is the antidote to Murphy’s Law that whatever can go wrong, will go wrong. The American military calls this tendency of events to become chaotic the “fog of war”. It is a theory based upon Clausewitz’ observation that war is the realm of uncertainty; three quarters of the factors on which action in war is based are wrapped in a fog of greater or lesser uncertainty. A sensitive and discriminating judgment is called for; a skilled intelligence to scent out the truth. For me to maintain Momentum through my “fog of life” I need a Truth sensor that is not clogged up by the minutiae of small decisions. Simplicity cuts through the fog.

Strong Routines are the framework of Consistency

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