Daily Leadership Message
Unwavering Loyalty To The Group And Unflinching Determination To Accomplish The Mission
Commitment is the second of the 5Cs, the F3 Leadership Characteristics.
A Leader Must Be Both Steadfast And Loyal
F3 defines Commitment as the Q’s unwavering loyalty to the Group and unflinching determination to accomplish the Mission. To waver is to shake and quiver unsteadily, to be irresolute and undecided. Wavering men set an unsteady course because they don’t really know themselves where they are going. At most, a follower might wait until until a wavering leader has picked a path in which he can believe, but the majority will have abandoned him long before then.
Equally important is loyalty, for without that there can be be no Trust . Most Leaders can (and do) have many faults, but no man will follow another man very far if he does not Trust him. A Leader who breaches the Trust of his followers through disloyalty has (in most nations) committed the capital crime of treason.
But Loyalty Alone Is Not Enough
Even the most loyal Leader will have little IMPACT without determination. After a series of wavering generals failed to end the Civil War by destroying the Army of Northern Virginia, Lincoln gave command of the Union Army to Ulysses Grant in March of 1864.
Within sixty days Grant had taken the battle directly to Lee in Virginia, but had been twice fought to a draw by a much smaller Confederate force. Unlike his predecessors, Grant did not return to Washington to lick his wounds and gaze at his navel. Instead, he tersely advised Lincoln of his intentions to press on against Lee: “I propose to fight it out on this line if it takes all summer.” And he did.
Grant’s determination to end the Civil War decisively was unwavering. Loyalty alone was not enough.
Now consider this: for a Leader, which takes precedence, men or Mission? Neither (it’s a trick question), it’s Mission accomplishment first, but welfare of the men always.
F3’s Mission is the reinvigoration of male Community Leadership. We are Joyfully determined to seeing that through. And yet, we are just as committed to the well being of the people who comprise the Communities and Organizations we serve.
A Leader Knows That His Commitment Will Be Put To The Test
Great, but what if the two should clash? What if a situation arises where Mission accomplishment and the well being of a particular man appear to be at odds? Well, it’s at that point where a Leaders’s Commitment is put to the test.
That’s the point where the Q either proves himself a Leader or is unmasked as a Mascot.
COMMITMENT: Unwavering loyalty to the Group and unflinching determination to accomplish the Mission. (Q3.4).
1 Kings 8:61
Let your heart therefore be wholly true to the Lord our God, walking in his statutes and keeping his commandments, as at this day.
But above all, my brothers, do not swear, either by heaven or by earth or by any other oath, but let your “yes” be yes and your “no” be no, so that you may not fall under condemnation.
If a man vows a vow to the Lord, or swears an oath to bind himself by a pledge, he shall not break his word. He shall do according to all that proceeds out of his mouth.
- “Successful people have fear, successful people have doubts, and successful people have worries. They just don’t let these feelings stop them.”
T. Harv Eker
- “You can have anything you want if you are willing to give up the belief that you can’t have it.”
Dr. Robert Anthony
- “It is not the mountain we conquer, but ourselves.”
Sir Edmund Hillary
Daily Storytelling Time
A wealthy man and his son loved to collect rare works of art. They had everything in their collection from Picasso to Raphael. They would often sit together and admire the great works of art.
When the Vietnam conflict broke out, the son went to war. He was very courageous and died in battle while rescuing another soldier. The father was notified and grieved deeply for his only son.
About a month later, just before Christmas, there was a knock at the door. A young man stood at the door with a large package in his hands. He said, “Sir, you don’t know me, but I am the soldier for whom your son gave his life. He saved many lives that day, and he was carrying me to safety when a bullet struck him in the heart, and he died instantly. He often talked about you, and your love for art.” The young man held out his package. “I know this isn’t much. I’m not really a great artist, but I think your son would have wanted you to have this.”
The father opened the package. It was a portrait of his son, painted by the young man. He stared in awe at the way the soldier had captured the personality of his son in the painting. The father was so drawn to the eyes that his own eyes welled up with tears. He thanked the young man and offered to pay him for the picture. “Oh, no sir, I could never repay what your son did for me. It’s a gift.”
The father hung the portrait over his mantle. Every time visitors came to his home, he took them to see the portrait of his son before he showed them any of the other great works he had collected.
The man died a few months later. There was to be a great auction of his paintings. Many influential people gathered, excited over seeing the great paintings and having an opportunity to purchase one for their collection. On the platform sat the painting of the son. The auctioneer pounded his gavel. “We will start the bidding with this picture of the son. Who will bid for this picture?” There was silence. Then a voice in the back of the room shouted, “We want to see the famous paintings. Skip this one.” But the auctioneer persisted. “Will someone bid for this painting? Who will start the bidding? $100, $200?” Another voice shouted angrily, “We didn’t come to see this painting. We came to see the Van Goghs, the Rembrandts. Get on with the real bids!” But still the auctioneer continued, “The son! The son! Who’ll take the son?”
Finally, a voice came from the very back of the room. It was the longtime gardener of the man and his son. “I’ll give $10 for the painting.” Being a poor man, it was all he could afford. “We have $10, who will bid $20?” “Give it to him for $10. Let’s see the masters.” “$10 is the bid, won’t someone bid $20?” The crowd was becoming angry. They didn’t want the picture of the son. They wanted the more worthy investments for their collections. The auctioneer pounded the gavel. “Going once, twice, SOLD FOR $10!”
A man sitting on the second row shouted, “Now, let’s get on with the collection!” The auctioneer laid down his gavel. “I’m sorry, the auction is over.” “What about the paintings?” “I am sorry. When I was called to conduct this auction, I was told of a secret stipulation in the will. I was not allowed to reveal that stipulation until this time. Only the painting of the son would be auctioned. Whoever bought that painting would inherit the entire estate, including the paintings. The man who took the son gets everything!”
God gave his Son 2000 years ago to die on a cruel cross. Much like the auctioneer, His message today is, “The Son, the Son, who’ll take the Son?” Because you see, whoever takes the Son gets everything.