Our natural tendency is to look for someone to blame.
You can go all the way back to the Garden of Eden on this one. When God asked Adam what he’d one, he said it was Eve’s fault. Then when God questioned Eve, she blamed it on the snake. The same thing happens today.
The next time you experience a failure, think about why you failed instead of who was at fault. Try to look at it objectively so that you can do better next time. Ask yourself:
• What lessons have I learned?
• How can I turn the failure into success?
• Where did I succeed as well as fail?
People who blame others for their failures never overcome them. They simply move from problem to problem. To reach your potential, you must continually improve yourself, and you can’t do that if you don’t take responsibility for your actions and learn from your mistakes.
Who do you tend to blame for your mistakes?
Do your mistakes have one underlying root that you haven’t addressed yet?
2 Corinthians 12:9
But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly of my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may rest upon me.
2 Corinthians 12:10
For the sake of Christ, then, I am content with weaknesses, insults, hardships, persecutions, and calamities. For when I am weak, then I am strong.
Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand
“Keep on going, and the chances are that you will stumble on something, perhaps when you are least expecting it. I have never heard of anyone ever stumbling on something sitting down.”
Charles F. Kettering
“If you genuinely want something, don’t wait for it–teach yourself to be impatient.”
“You can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backward. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something–your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. This approach has never let me down, and it has made all the difference in my life.”
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POINT OUT PEOPLE’S STRENGTHS
People often make a mistake in their personal development when they focus too much on their weaknesses.
As a result, they spend all their time trying to shore up those weaknesses instead of maximizing the strengths they possess.
Similarly, it’s a mistake to focus on the weaknesses of others. The self-proclaimed “experts” who spend their time telling others what’s wrong with them never win with people.
Most people simply avoid them.
Instead, we need to focus on finding people’s strengths and pointing them out.
Most people have strengths that they rarely get to use. Those strengths may be job skills, knowledge, general abilities, personality characteristics, or other attributes.
We need to be thinking, that every person can do at least one thing better than ten thousand other people.
Think about that! You possess an ability that can’t be matched by anyone in your town or neighborhood . . . or in your college or university . . . or in your company or maybe even in your industry.
Have you discovered that ability?
If so, you are probably well on your way to pursuing your life’s purpose. If you haven’t, wouldn’t you love it if someone came alongside you and pointed it out?
How would you feel about that person? I bet you’d be pretty grateful.
Why not try to become that kind of person in someone else’s life? When you do, you just might be helping others to discover the thing God created them to do.