October 15th F3QSOURCE Daily Leadership Message Scriptures and Quotes

Leaders Video https://youtu.be/B0saa81pWT4Leaders Message

Kill the negative self-talk by reframing.

Do you ever hear that voice inside your head tell you things like:

“I screwed up again.”
“I can’t do this. I was never able to do it. It’s not going to work now.”
“I am nothing compared to those people.”

Self-talk is normal but when it becomes negative and is used to reinforce an irrational thought or idea, that’s a problem.

So what’s the solution? A neat little positive psychology trick called reframing. You begin by consciously identifying the type of inner dialogue or language you use daily. We all have one. What’s yours?

Next, take a mental note, or journal about the negative words or phrases you use at the end of the day. For example: I can’t, I don’t know how, this is impossible, I always get this wrong, etc.

Now, really pay attention to the times when you use them again. What are the triggers? Are demands at work piling up? Are things at home not so peachy?

As you notice yourself saying something negative in your mind, you can stop your thought midstream by saying to yourself (or in your head), “Stop!” Saying this aloud will be more powerful, and having to say it aloud will make you more aware of how many times you are stopping negative thoughts and where.

Now, dig deep down inside yourself and rethink your assumptions. Are you assuming something is a negative event when it isn’t, necessarily? Stop, rethink, and see if you can come up with a neutral or positive replacement.

By reframing, you’re challenging your irrational ideas, thoughts, and generalizations–yes, and those voices that tell you you’re hopeless or always doing things wrong!

Daily Scriptures

Romans 8:28

And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose.

Hebrews 13:17

Obey your leaders and submit to them, for they are keeping watch over your souls, as those who will have to give an account. Let them do this with joy and not with groaning, for that would be of no advantage to you.

Hebrews 9:11

But when Christ appeared as a high priest of the good things that have come, then through the greater and more perfect tent (not made with hands, that is, not of this creation)

Daily Quotes

“The goal of many leaders is to get people to think more highly of the leader. The goal of a great leader is to help people to think more highly of themselves.” -J. Carla Nortcutt

“Do the thing you fear, and the death of fear is certain.” -Ralph Waldo Emerson

“The purpose of life is not to win. The purpose of life is to grow and to share. When you come to look back on all that you have done in life, you will get more satisfaction from the pleasure you have brought into other people’s lives than you will from the times that you outdid and defeated them.” -Rabbi Harold Kushner

Leaders Leading Leaders

A friend came to my house for coffee, we sat and talked about life. At some point in the conversation, I said, “I’m going to wash the dishes and I’ll be right back.”

He looked at me as if I had told him I was going to build a space rocket. Then he said to me with admiration but a little perplexed: “I’m glad you help your wife, I do not help because when I do, my wife does not praise me. Last week I washed the floor and no thanks.”

I went back to sit with him and explained that I did not “help” my wife. Actually, my wife does not need help, she needs a partner. I am a partner at home and through that society are divided functions, but it is not a “help” to do household chores.

I do not help my wife clean the house because I live here too and I need to clean it too.

I do not help my wife to cook because I also want to eat and I need to cook too.

I do not help my wife wash the dishes after eating because I also use those dishes.

I do not help my wife with her children because they are also my children and my job is to be a father.

I do not help my wife to wash, spread or fold clothes, because the clothes are also mine and my children.

I am not a help at home, I am part of the house. And as for praising, I asked my friend when it was the last time after his wife finished cleaning the house, washing clothes, changing bed sheets, bathing her children, cooking, organizing, etc. You said thank you

But a thank you of the type: Wow, sweetheart !!! You are fantastic!!!

Does that seem absurd to you? Are you looking strange? When you, once in a lifetime, cleaned the floor, you expected in the least, a prize of excellence with great glory … why? You never thought about that, my friend?

Maybe because for you, the macho culture has shown that everything is her job.

Perhaps you have been taught that all this must be done without having to move a finger? Then praise her as you wanted to be praised, in the same way, with the same intensity. Give her a hand, behave like a true companion, not as a guest who only comes to eat, sleep, bathe and satisfy needs … Feel at home. In his house.

The real change of our society begins in our homes, let us teach our sons and daughters the real sense of fellowship! “
—Hawk—

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