COMMITMENT: Unwavering loyalty to the Group and unflinching determination to accomplish its Mission. (Q3.9).
ARE YOU WILLING TO GIVE YOUR POWER AWAY TO ENLARGE OTHERS?
Leading well is not about enriching yourself—it’s about empowering others. Only empowered people can reach their potential. When a leader can’t or won’t empower others, he creates barriers within the organization that followers cannot overcome.
When leaders fail to empower others, it is usually due to three main reasons:
1. Desire for Job Security
2. Resistance to Change
3. Lack of Self-Worth
The truth is that empowerment is powerful
—not only for the person being developed, but also for the mentor.
Enlarging others makes you larger. It is an impact you can experience as a leader as long as you are willing to believe in people and give your power away.
ARE YOU WILLING TO GIVE YOUR POWER AWAY TO ENLARGE OTHERS
Leadership is about making others better because of your presence. When someone looks at you, they should be able to gain confidence; they should be inspired to be more than they are.
But how do you know if you have the presence to even influence another? Here are some of the elements that make up a leadership presence.
Develop your character:
Your character should never be silent. It needs to have a voice that reflects your heart and soul. When you lead with character, you give the essence of your identity.
Mind your attitude:
Your attitude as a leader influences those around you, whether it’s negative or positive. It will be felt by those around you more quickly than your actions. A great leadership presence is practiced not so much in words as in attitudes and in actions.
Everything you wear has an expression:
How you look and how you dress are important. Appearances make the first impression, so make sure your outward appearance reflects who you are inwardly. Don’t put on pretenses; the aim is to represent yourself authentically and appropriately.
Respect is the presence of everything:
Great leaders build presence by practicing respect in three ways: respect for self, respect for others, and responsibility for actions. Without respect and responsibility true leadership presence is impossible.
Great leaders they don’t end up telling people what they know but showing them how it is done. You have to be proficient in your field and an expert with your skills to have a presence in your leadership.
You need the skills to inform others, engage with others, and advise others in a clear and concise way that can be implemented and followed. The art of communication is the language of leadership.
Pay attention, your body is speaking.
People may not always tell you how they feel, but they will always show you what they are thinking—you just have to pay attention to their presence. Body language sends clear message, even when people aren’t speaking. Make sure your own body language is consistent with what you say; don’t contradict yourself.
Intelligence is important, but emotional intelligence matters more. It gives you the ability to understand yourself and others, a critical component of creating presence.
Accountability is your responsibility:
To have presence is to accept responsibility for your actions and be accountable for your results. Without accountability there is no presence in leadership. This is your leadership and you are 100 percent responsible for it, so be accountable.
So Peter opened his mouth and said: “Truly I understand that God shows no partiality, but in every nation anyone who fears him and does what is right is acceptable to him.
You are the sons of the prophets and of the covenant that God made with your fathers, saying to Abraham, ‘And in your offspring shall all the families of the earth be blessed.’
These I will bring to my holy mountain, and make them joyful in my house of prayer; their burnt offerings and their sacrifices will be accepted on my altar; for my house shall be called a house of prayer for all peoples.”
- “Blessed are those who can give without remembering and take without forgetting.”
- “Reflect upon your present blessings, of which every man has many–not on your past misfortunes, of which all men have some.”
- “Even a happy life cannot be without a measure of darkness, and the word happywould lose its meaning if it were not balanced by sadness. It is far better to take things as they come along with patience and equanimity.”
Leaders Leading Leaders
(Olde but Goode)
The two brothers
Once upon a time, two brothers who lived on adjoining farms fell into conflict. It was the first serious rift in 40 years of farming side by side, sharing machinery, and trading labour and goods as needed without a hitch. Then the long collaboration fell apart. It began with a small misunderstanding and it grew into a major difference, and finally it exploded into an exchange of bitter words followed by weeks of silence.
One morning there was a knock on John’s door. He opened it to find a man with a carpenter’s toolbox. “I’m looking for a few days work,” he said. “Perhaps you would have a few small jobs here and there. Could I help you?” “Yes,” said the older brother. “I do have a job for you. Look across the creek at that farm. That’s my neighboor. In fact, it’s my younger brother. Last week there was a meadow between us and he took his bulldozer to the river levee and now there is a creek between us. Well, he may have done this to spite me, but I’ll go him one better. See that pile of lumber curing by the barn? I want you to build me a fence – an 8-foot fence – so I won’t need to see his place anymore. Cool him down anyhow.”
The carpenter said, “I think I understand the situation. Show me the nails and the post hole digger and I’ll be able to do a job that pleases you.” The older brother had to go to town for supplies, so he helped the carpenter get the materials ready and then he was off for the day.
The carpenter worked hard all that day measuring, sawing, and nailing. About sunset when the farmer returned, the carpenter had just finished his job. The farmer’s eyes opened wide, his jaw dropped. There was no fence there at all. It was a bridge – a bridge stretching from one side of the creek to the other! A fine piece of work – handrails and all – and the neighbour, his younger brother, was coming across, his hand outstretched. “You are quite a fellow to build this bridge after all I’ve said and done.” The two brothers stood at each end of the bridge, and then they met in the middle, taking each other’s hand.
They turned to see the carpenter hoist his toolbox on his shoulder. “No, wait! Stay a few days. I’ve a lot of other projects for you,” said the older brother. “I’d love to stay on,” the carpenter said, ” but I have many more bridges to build.”
Everyday we have the choice of building fences or bridges. One leads to isolation and the other to openness.