Ingraining Advantageous Tendencies In Others
A man cannot give away what he himself does not possess
A Habit is a regular tendency that is hard to give up. By regular, we mean periodic, in the sense that it is something done (or refrained from) at a measurable interval. A tendency, the something done, is a type of behavior or characteristic that has become so ingrained over time that a person engages in it without active thought, like lighting up a cigarette every time he starts the car.
A Habit, standing alone, can be positive, negative or neutral.
- A negative Habit is one that is damaging to the individual who engages in it, the people who might be affected by it or both. Texting while driving is an example of a negative Habit. It is a regular tendency that threatens the safety of the driver, his passengers and the motoring public with whom he shares the public roadway.
- A neutral Habit is one that is neither damaging nor Advantageous to the individual or anyone else. Chewing gum while driving is a neutral Habit. Although it might relax the driver, it does not create a superior circumstance through Movement. Most of what we call nervous Habits are neutral Habits. It is just repetitive behavior that has no significant effect on anyone. At their worst, they are a waste of time.
- positive Habit, a Brick, is a regular tendency that is Advantageous to the individual or others. Wearing a seat belt is a positive Habit. It reduces the likelihood of serious injury in the event of collision, which is Advantageous to both the driver and his Concentrica.
Through IMPACT, the HIM helps other men discontinue their negative Habits, minimize time spent on neutral Habits while initiating and ingraining positive Habits.
IMPACT is an acronym formed by the different aspects of what HIM does to achieve strong effect through forcible contact:
Influence: igniting a powerful desire for Movement
Missionality: Serving in the High Impact Zone
Positive Habit Transfer: ingraining Advantageous tendencies in others
Accountability: submitting to Standard through Enforcement and Consequence
Correction: zealously advocating for shared virtue
Targeting: initiating Missionality in others
Bad Habits are easy to slip into, but hard to break. Positive Habits are hard to develop, but easy to slip out of. If it were otherwise, people would simply replace their bad Habits with good ones without the help of anyone else. But it doesn’t work that way. Most people need forcible contact from another person in order to replace their negative Habits with positive ones. This help is best delivered in the form of the Positive Habit Transfer (PHT) .
PHT starts with Influence. Through word and deed, the HIM Persuasively models his own positive Habits to ignite a desire for change in others. This presupposes that the HIM actually engages in the positive Habits he is trying to model as it is axiomatic that no man can give away what he himself does not possess. It would be like trying to start a fire with a cold ember.
Likewise, the HIM knows that he is mostly likely to have strong effect when he is working within his High Impact Zone. Having learned his D2X over time, he focuses his energy on his Daffodil—the people-group he was born to Serve. That doesn’t mean that he cannot pass positive Habits on to people outside of his Daffodil, just that he will have much stronger effect if he stays Missional.
Because positive Habits are easy to slip out of, the HIM must also take measures to ensure that his own Guardrails are not crumbling while he is trying to help others build theirs. The pursuit of proper personal alignment that is at the heart of the Get Right is not a static undertaking. Having gotten Right, a HIM remains susceptible to backsliding into misalignment with himself, his Concentrica and his Creator if he is not vigilant in his efforts to continue to Accelerate. A major component of this effort is Accountability, the submission to Standard through Enforcement and Consequence. Without Accountability, a HIM will not be able to keep his own Bricks in place long enough to pass them on to anyone else.
But be doers of the word, and not hearers only, deceiving yourselves. For if anyone is a hearer of the word and not a doer, he is like a man who looks intently at his natural face in a mirror. For he looks at himself and goes away and at once forgets what he was like. But the one who looks into the perfect law, the law of liberty, and perseveres, being no hearer who forgets but a doer who acts, he will be blessed in his doing.
All Scripture is breathed out by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, and for training in righteousness,
To put off your old self, which belongs to your former manner of life and is corrupt through deceitful desires, and to be renewed in the spirit of your minds, and to put on the new self, created after the likeness of God in true righteousness and holiness.
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