BE IMPRESSED, NOT IMPRESSIVE
Too often we think that if we can impress others, we will gain influence with them. We want to become others’ heroes—to be larger than life. That creates a problem because we’re real live human beings. People can see us for who we really are. If we make it our goal to impress them, we puff up our pride and end up being pretentious—and that turns people off. If you want to influence others, don’t try to impress them. Pride is really nothing more than a form of selfishness, and pretense is only a way to keep people at arm’s length so that they can’t see who you really are. Instead of impressing others, let them impress you. It’s really a matter of attitude.
The people with charisma, those who attract others to themselves, are individuals who focus on others, not themselves. They ask questions of others. They listen. They don’t try to be the center of attention. And they never try to pretend they’re perfect.
1 Samuel 16:7
But the Lord said to Samuel, “Do not look on his appearance or on the height of his stature, because I have rejected him. For the Lord sees not as man sees: man looks on the outward appearance, but the Lord looks on the heart.”
And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose.
Know this, my beloved brothers: let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger; for the anger of man does not produce the righteousness of God.
“Everything is a gift of the universe–even joy, anger, jealousy, frustration, or separateness. Everything is perfect either for our growth or our enjoyment.”
Ken Keyes Jr.
“There is no such thing as a problem without a gift for you in its hands. You seek problems because you need their gifts.”
“If you want to be happy, set a goal that commands your thoughts, liberates your energy, and inspires your hopes.”
Leaders Leading Leaders
Vision is everything for a leader.
It is utterly indispensable.
Because vision leads the leaders. It paints the targets, sparks and fuels the fire within, and draws them forward. And it is also the fire-lighter for others who follow those leaders. Show me a leader without vision, and I’ll show you someone who isn’t going anywhere. At best, they’re traveling in circles. To get a handle on vision and how it comes to be a part of a good leader, understand these things:
1. Vision starts within.
2. Vision draws on your history.
3. Vision meets others’ needs.
4. Vision helps you gather resources.
One of the most valuable benefits of vision is that is acts like a magnet— attracting, challenging, and uniting people. The greater the vision, the more winners it has the potential to attract. The more challenging the vision, the harder the participants fight to achieve it.