Daily Leadership Message
Graciously Telling The Hard Truth And Demanding to Hear It From Others
Candor is the first of the 5Cs, the F3 Leadership Characteristics. These are the attributes that enable the Q to be what a Leader is. In contrast, Leadership Skills are the abilities that enable the Q to do what a Leader does. Candor is not a Skill, it is a Characteristic.
The dictionary defines candor as a state or quality of being frank, open and sincere in speech or expression; free from bias, fair and impartial. F3’s definition is a little different and a lot shorter: Candor simply means graciously telling the hard truth.
It is not that sincerity is bad or that freedom from bias is not an aspirational Virtue, but only that truth is more important
Sincerity can be faked (and usually is), and no man is ever completely free from bias. It is better for a Leader to say what he truly believes and disclose his biases so his followers can assess for themselves how sincere and fair he is.
Candor (the F3 type) is rare. We have come to live in a culture that elevates individual subjective feelings over the sharp discourse necessary to any search for universal truth, where a sincerely held belief (no matter how factually flimsy) trumps all else.
For Goo Nation, any confrontation to an individual’s untested thesis with a diametrical antithesis is deemed “hate speech” because it forces the person to confront the proposition:
• that his emotions may be unreliable
• that there may be more data he should consider
• that there may be work to do to get at the truth
• that he is going to have to Move
CANDOR: Graciously telling the hard truth and demanding to hear it from others. (Q3.3).
Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of lights with whom there is no variation or shadow due to change
1 John 3:18
Little children, let us not love in word or talk but in deed and in truth.
2 Timothy 2:15
Do your best to present yourself to God as one approved, a worker who has no need to be ashamed, rightly handling the word of truth.
- “Don’t wait until everything is just right. It will never be perfect. There will always be challenges, obstacles, and less than perfect conditions. So what? Get started now. With each step you take, you will grow stronger and stronger, more and more skilled, more and more self-confident, and more and more successful.”
Mark Victor Hansen
- “You wouldn’t worry so much about what others think of you if you realized how seldom they do.”
- “Low self-confidence isn’t a life sentence. Self-confidence can be learned, practiced, and mastered–just like any other skill. Once you master it, everything in your life will change for the better.”
Daily Storytelling Time
Charles Plumb, a U.S. Naval Academy graduate, was a jet pilot in Vietnam. After 75 combat missions, his plane was destroyed by a surface-to-air missile. Plumb ejected and parachuted into enemy hands. He was captured and spent 6 years in a communist Vietnamese prison. He survived the ordeal and now lectures on lessons learned from that experience.
He survived the ordeal and now lectures on lessons learned from that experience.
One day, when Plumb and his wife were sitting in a restaurant, a man at another table came up and said, “You’re Plumb! You flew jet fighters in Vietnam from the aircraft carrier Kitty Hawk. You were shot down!” “How in the world did you know that?” asked Plumb. “I packed your parachute,” the man replied. Plumb gasped in surprise and gratitude. The man pumped his hand and said, “I guess it worked!” Plumb assured him, “It sure did. If your chute hadn’t worked, I wouldn’t be here today.”
Plumb couldn’t sleep that night, thinking about that man. Plumb says, “I kept wondering what he might have looked like in a Navy uniform: a white hat, a bib in the back, and bell-bottom trousers. I wonder how many times I might have seen him and not even said ‘Good morning,’ ‘how are you?’ or anything because, you see, I was a fighter pilot and he was just a sailor.” Plumb thought of the many hours the sailor had spent on a long wooden table in the bowels of the ship, carefully weaving the shrouds and folding the silks of each chute, holding in his hands each time the fate of someone he didn’t know.
Now, Plumb asks his audience, “Who’s packing your parachute?” Everyone has someone who provides what they need to make it through the day. Plumb also points out that he needed many kinds of parachutes when his plane was shot down over enemy territory he needed his physical parachute, his mental parachute, his emotional parachute, and his spiritual parachute. He called on all these supports before reaching safety.
Sometimes in the daily challenges that life gives us, we miss what is really important. We may fail to say hello, please, or thank you, congratulate someone on something wonderful that has happened to them, give a compliment, or just do something nice for no reason. As you go through this week, this month, this year, recognize people who pack your parachute.