GRATITUDE VS. ENVY
Envy is a big obstacle on the path towards leadership. It makes people behave in small, unpleasant and sometimes ugly ways. Envy is not the ambition to possess as much as my neighbor possesses or to be as gifted as he is.
Such an ambition can be a healthy thing and usually indicates an inclination to leadership. Envy is something else. It involves bitterness and resentment, possibly combined with a desire to bring down one’s neighbor. It can easily become a toxic brew engendering hatred.
Often, it has its roots in an inferiority complex. Envy is the product of small-mindedness. The envious person is convinced that earthly goods (material, cultural, and spiritual) are finite and cannot be shared. There is no place for envy in a leader’s heart. Leaders practice the virtue of gratitude, which is the opposite of envy. They say “thank you” and reward people for their efforts.
When the Spirit of truth comes, he will guide you into all the truth, for he will not speak on his own authority, but whatever he hears he will speak, and he will declare to you the things that are to come.
You shall not take vengeance or bear a grudge against the sons of your own people, but you shall love your neighbor as yourself: I am the Lord.
“So whatever you wish that others would do to you, do also to them, for this is the Law and the Prophets
“Conflict can destroy a team which hasn’t spent time learning to deal with it.” Thomas Isgar
“It isn’t that they can’t see the solution. It is that they can’t see the problem.” G. K. Chesterton“Don’t ever take a fence down until you know why it was put up.” Robert Frost
Along time ago there was a great shah. He ordered to build a beautiful palace which had many wonderful things in it.
Among other curiosities in the palace there was a hall, where all the walls, the sealing, the door and even the floor were made of mirror. The mirrors were so clear and smooth that visitors didn’t understand at once that there was a mirror in front of them – so accurately the mirrors would reflect the objects. Moreover, the walls of this hall were made in a way that they created an extraordinary increased echo.
Once, a dog ran into the hall and froze in surprise in the middle of the hall, a whole pack of dogs surrounded it from all sides, from above and below. Just in case, the dog bared his teeth – and all the reflections responded to it in the same way.
Frightened, the dog frantically barked – the echo imitated the bark and increased it many times. The dog barked even harder – and the echo was keeping up. The dog tossed from one side to another, biting the air- his reflections also tossed around snapping their teeth.
In the morning, the guards found the miserable dog, lifeless and surrounded by a million reflections of lifeless dogs. There was nobody, who would make any harm to the dog. The dog died by fighting with his own reflections.
The world doesn’t bring good or evil on its own. Everything that is happening around us is the reflection of our own thoughts, feelings, wishes and actions. The world is a big mirror.