LEARN TO BE FLEXIBLE
Perhaps the most relentless enemy of achievement, personal growth, and success is inflexibility.
A friend sent me “The Top Ten Strategies for Dealing with a Dead Horse,” which I think is hilarious:
1. Buy a stronger whip.
2. Change riders.
3. Appoint a committee to study the horse.
4. Appoint a team to revive the horse.
5. Send out a memo declaring the horse isn’t really dead.
6. Hire an expensive consultant to find “the real problem.”
7. Harness several dead horses together for increased speed and efficiency.
8. Rewrite the standard definition of live horse.
9. Declare the horse to be better, faster, and cheaper when dead.
10. Promote the dead horse to a supervisory position.
I bet you’ve seen just about every one of these “solutions” enacted in your place of work. But there’s really only one effective way to deal with that problem:
Stop Beating a Dead Horse
When your horse is dead, for goodness’ sake, dismount. You don’t have to love change to be successful, but you need to be willing to accept it.
But I say to you, Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you,
2 Corinthians 5:17
Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has passed away; behold, the new has come.
1 Corinthians 6:19-20
Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body
- Do the difficult things while they are easy and do the great things while they are small. A journey of a thousand miles must begin with a single step.
- When the best leader’s work is done the people say, “We did it ourselves.”
- When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be.
- Mastering others is strength. Mastering yourself is true power.
- When you are content to be simply yourself and don’t compare or compete, everybody will respect you.
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MAKE YOUR HOME A HAVEN
Better a dry crust with peace and quiet than a house full of feasting, with strife. PROVERBS 17:1 (NIV)
I once heard someone joke that home is the place where family members go when they are tired of being nice to other people. Unfortunately some homes actually seem to work that way. A salesman spends his day treating his clients with kindness in order to build his business, but he’s rude to his wife when he comes home. Or a doctor spends the day being caring and compassionate with her patients, but comes home exhausted and blows up at her children.
To build a strong family, you have to make your home a supportive environment. Psychologist William James said, “In every person from the cradle to the grave, there is a deep craving to be appreciated.” Feeling appreciated brings out the best in people. And when that appreciation comes in the home and is coupled with acceptance, love, and encouragement, the bonds between family members grow, and the home becomes a safe haven for everyone.
Your Road Map for Success
What can you do to make your home a safe haven?
There are some people who face such adversity that it’s surprising they are here at all, and Hee-ah Lee is one of those. Lee was born in South Korea with severe physical deformities. She has only two fingers on each of her hands, and her thumbs contain no bones. She also has no lower legs. Her mother took motion sickness pills before realizing she was pregnant, and her father, paralyzed below the waist from war injuries, was a heavy morphine user. It’s believed that these factors contributed to Lee’s birth defects.
When she was born, doctors did not expect the tiny child to live. But she did live, and when Lee was six, her mother made a very strange decision. The child could barely hold a pencil, and Lee’s mother decided that piano lessons would be a great way for her to strengthen her four fingers. Lee’s fingers did indeed get stronger, but more than that, she had found her calling.
Obviously, playing the piano was far more difficult for Lee than for other students. She is said to have spent a full five years practicing one especially difficult passage from a Chopin Fantaisie. But all that hard work paid off. In 1992, Lee won first prize in South Korea’s prestigious National Student Music Contest. Lee now has regularly scheduled concerts around the world, where she plays for stunned audiences. She’s known for playing particularly difficult pieces that would be challenging even for able-bodied pianists.
Hard work, perseverance, and love of what she does have all driven Hee-ah Lee to success, and she calls the piano her inspiration and her best friend. Born a child who was not expected to live, Lee is now one of the greatest pianists in the world