Have you noticed how difficult it is to remember someone’s name when you meet them? Within seconds of a person telling me his name, I’ve forgotten what he said.
I may have even repeated it to myself. “Great to meet you, Garrett.” Seconds later, Wait, what was his name again? How in the world does that happen? When our emotions rise, our ability to think rationally declines. When we are learning someone’s name upon introduction, we are naturally more nervous and anxious because of the social context.
When our nervousness rises, our cognitive ability to do something as simple as remembering the word “Garrett” declines.
Emotions are such a powerful force for us, which is why we must learn to stay in the balcony when we’re in the middle of tense situations. If you can’t stay emotionally neutral about a situation, you’re not ready to bring it up.
An emotional person is not a stable person, especially in a discussion with their boss. To be able to talk about something potentially complicated and personal, you need to be able to keep your emotions in check. You cannot allow your emotions to lead you to say things you would regret if you hope to maintain influence with others. You need to develop emotional maturity. If you feel you’re too angry or upset, just wait.
Learn to control those emotions and practice thinking through them by thinking through interactions in advance. Thomas Paine said, “The greatest remedy for anger is delay.”
Time has this amazing way of calming us down. The further away from a situation we are, the more clear-minded and levelheaded we can be. And the more effective we will be at challenging up. So stay in the balcony as much as possible.
Then Jesus said to him, “Put your sword back into its place. For all who take the sword will perish by the sword. Do you think that I cannot appeal to my Father, and he will at once send me more than twelve legions of angels? But how then should the Scriptures be fulfilled, that it must be so?”
1 Timothy 5:8
But if anyone does not provide for his relatives, and especially for members of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever
“You have heard that it was said, ‘An eye for an eye and a tooth for a tooth.’ But I say to you, Do not resist the one who is evil. But if anyone slaps you on the right cheek, turn to him the other also.
- “If you are willing to do more than you are paid to do, eventually you will be paid to do more than you do.” Anonymous
- “Success is walking from failure to failure with no loss of enthusiasm.” Winston Churchill
- “Whenever you see a successful person, you only see the public glories, never the private sacrifices to reach them.” Vaibhav Shah
Leaders Leading Leaders
There was once a farmer who devised a competition between his dog and his rabbit. He made a hole in one of his biggest fields, and hid a carrot and a bone in it. He wanted to see which animal would find them first.
The rabbit was very cheerful and optimistic, and he threw himself into looking for the carrot, digging here and there, totally convinced that he would find it. But the dog was pessimistic, and after sniffing around for a bit, he lay down on the ground and began to complain how difficult it was to find one bone in such a big field.
The rabbit dug for hours, and with every new hole the dog complained even more about how difficult this was, even for the rabbit. The rabbit, on the other hand, thought that each hole dug was one hole less that needed digging. When there was no place in the whole field left to dig, the rabbit dug a tunnel to right under where the dog had been lying all that time.
There he found the carrot and the bone. And this is how it was that the dog lost due to his pessimism. Because, thanks to his great instinct, he had already found the right place at the very beginning!
There is no pillow so soft as a clear conscience.
Worrying does not take away tomorrow’s troubles. It takes away today’s peace.
Love is the bridge between you and everything.
Power should not be concentrated in the hands of so few, and powerlessness in the hands of so many.