When we see any incredibly gifted person, it’s always tempting to believe that talent alone made him successful. To think that is to buy in to a lie.
Nobody does anything great alone. Leaders do not succeed alone. A leader’s potential is determined by those closest to him. What makes the difference is the leader’s inner circle.
To practice the Law of the Inner Circle, you must be intentional in your relationship building. As you consider whether individuals should be in your inner circle, ask yourself the following questions.
1. Do they have high influence with others?
2. Do they possess strengths in my areas of weakness?
3. Do they add value to me and my organization?
4. Do they positively impact other inner circle members?
INTENTIONAL AND STRATEGIC IN BUILDING YOUR INNER CIRCLE.
1 John 1:7
But if we walk in the light, as he is in the light, we have fellowship with one another, and the blood of Jesus his Son cleanses us from all sin.
I have been crucified with Christ. It is no longer I who live, but Christ who lives in me. And the life I now live in the flesh I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave himself for me
For to us a child is born, to us a son is given; and the government shall be upon his shoulder, and his name shall be called Wonderful Counselor, Mighty God, Everlasting Father, Prince of Peace
“We are all ordinary. We are all boring. We are all spectacular. We are all shy. We are all bold. We are all heroes. We are all helpless. It just depends on the day.” –Brad Meltzer
“An individual has not started living until he can rise above the narrow confines of his individualistic concerns to the broader concerns of all humanity.”― Martin Luther King, Jr.
“Strength lies in differences, not in similarities.” ― Stephen R. Covey
“It is never too late to give up your prejudices.”― Henry David Thoreau
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MANAGE STRESS IN HIGH STAKES SITUATIONS
You can’t completely control your heart rate in a high-stress situation, but you can maximize your resistance to stress to perform at optimal levels (i.e., stay in Condition Red) for as long as possible.
We don’t rise to the level of our expectations, we fall to the level of our training. —Archilochus
1: PRACTICE tactical breathing, a technique that soldiers and police officers use to calm down and stay focused during firefights: Slowly inhale a deep breath for four seconds. Hold the breath in for four seconds. Slowly exhale the breath for four seconds. Hold the empty breath for four seconds. Then repeat until your breathing is under control.
2: MEDITATE. Meditation can help clear stressful thoughts from your mind. To meditate, sit in a quiet place and focus on your breath going in your nose and out your mouth. When a distracting thought pops up, name the thought, let it go, and focus back on your breath. With time your mind will quiet down, and your ability to dismiss unwanted thoughts will improve. Start with one ten-minute session daily, and slowly increase to twenty minutes.
3: PRACTICE visualization. Warriors who visualize hypothetical high-stress scenarios perform better in actual situations than those who don’t.
• Make the visualization as vivid as possible. Incorporate your senses and emotions.
• Visualize yourself successfully overcoming specific obstacles. Never visualize failure.
• Combine visualization with tactical practice and role playing.
4: USE task-relevant instructional self-talk. To counter the effects of high stress, talk yourself through complex actions as if you were an instructor. For example, many police officers are trained to speak out loud during every step in the gun firing process using the acronym BRASS: Breathe, Relax, Aim, Sight, Squeeze.5: TRAIN realistically. There’s an old saying among soldiers: “You do not rise to the occasion in combat, you sink to the level of training.” For self-defense, do more than go to the gun range or punch a heavy bag. Train under the same pressure you’ll experience in real life. This can be achieved with simunitions or airsoft guns, or live sparring.